[bluedragon]

Let me jump in here and share a little different perspective.
It has been a long time since it became extremely easy for me to attract friends of the opposite sex. This happened when I started to trust myself (trust which has gone up like crazy over time), and started to believe in the law of attraction at least at an unconscious level. I have always wanted more from a relationship than the physical aspects, but there was also a great deal of shame and low self image (low perception of the way others see me, even though I believed in me myself) - which can make you very confident when it comes to the future, but not so confident when it comes to short term actions, like going on a date. Anyway, the thing is that since I was 17, I have had 4 girls as best friends, by which I mean going out together at least once every 2 days, and talking for hours, sharing everything about each other, about our projects, doing things together, going to the theater, to concerts, to parks, even reading together. I can't believe how beautiful this sounds right now, because, like many others, I've been very frustrated with the idea that I hadn't had sexual experience when everybody else I knew had, and many of my friends considered I was missing out on what's important, and tried to counsel me.
All of these 4 relationships lasted about 4 months. These girls either had a boyfriend who they said they didn't really date very often, or didn't want to have a relationship at the time (and I wasn't very persuasive in trying to change their mind). One of them, I kissed after about 2 weeks of dating, but then she said she still couldn't forget her boyfriend, so I chilled out.
Another kissed me on our 3rd date, and then kept provoking me. Because that made me unsure of myself, I backed away - which made her decide it's better to remain just friends.
So let me just say - lack of experience CAN stop you from being with a girl you really like and with whom you have everything in common - except for experience. There is some truth to that - but it helps if you are open and really willing to take chances. It appears I wasn't.
Now it's been a while and though I still consider these girls my friends, life circumstances made it difficult for us to see each other.
There is only one I'm really still seeing, and I am yet to see what I'm gonna do about it.
The wonderful thing is that each of these girls tought me an important lesson (or several). I'm not talking about the lesson of getting to know a girl. I'm talking about really important things that I needed in life, and I feel really lucky I met them. The things I learned from them, I could never forget. And the good habits and interesting attitudes they have inspired me with - I can never be to lazy to put into practice myself if I wish to, because I learned them in such a pleasant way. For example, this girl I'm seeing made me begin studying Russian, cause she speaks it being from Moldavia. I just decided to learn it. I want to, for myself. It's crazy. And I love the idea.
I am sure that when I want, I will be able to attract the physical type of relationship. The thing is I do want, but I feel unavailable emotionally at the moment. I just went trough an extraordinary 3 months challenging trip, I just figured out my life's purpose, I started building 2 sites about healing and self improvement with SBI, and I have to keep up with my Tai Chi practice cause I want to become an instructor in 2 years. I am taking salsa and tango lessons at my university 3 days a week. I just want to organize my life and become better at doing things in their given time, and I will succeed. Then, the only thing that will not be in tip-top order and I will care about will be relationships. And then - the game can begin.