Yeah. I'm affraid the relationship has deteriorated quite a bit over the years. I personally think the only thing keeping them together is that they're financially dependant of eachother.
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Originally Posted by marinik  OK now this is a tough one.
First - you can become the person your partner really needs. Or in other words the best wife you can be for him. If the whole relationship hasn't deteriorated. It worked for me big time. After years of struggling to change him I became the best wife for him and things changed for the good so drastically that I sill can't believe it. It is IM you resonate the best fro you and this is what you get.
Second - on the other hand I ended a relationship that was warm and beautiful and wonderful because of one situation that built up in my head too such magnitude that it started suffocating me. The avalanche of my thoughts around one clumsy sentence was unbelievable! It started obsessing me and no method, trick or skill helped. So I ended it. It felt so much better that I can't even start to explain. A dear friend wrote something to me the day I called it quits. |
You are right, Jesann. Fault indeed is not responsibility. Also, that's a very interesting blog!
My mother actually already knows about IM, but she only knows of it at the level of "The Secret", if I can put it that way.
I know she's probably not ready for a talk about IM, especially when in a negative state of mind. That's why I limited to asking what she actually does want, so as to change her focus.
It's also my own confusion I'm concerned about, because if I'm confused, how can I properly teach her? Know what I mean?
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Originally Posted by Jesann Don't confuse fault and responsibility! Argh! (Wow, am I in a mood this morning....)
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Your mother might not be ready to hear about IM anyway, especially if she's in a negative state of mind. There may be openings, later on, when you can start to hint that she can change her world. |