Hi Philemon,
I wrote an article which addresses the question of whether dreams are 'real' or not and what you're doing when you're dreaming. You may find it interesting:
healingandinsight.com » Testimonials » What we’re doing when we’re asleep
It sounds to me as if you're a dream master.
I regularly have 'synchronized' dreams - it seems to happen with my housemates quite a lot. Like, a few weeks ago, my housemate and I both dreamed on the same night that we were holding a baby and the baby's head kept flopping back because he couldn't hold it up, as if he had no bone in his neck.
And another time, another housemate and I both dreamt we were on a plane that crashed - and the details of the dream were quite similar too.