Wow - that's an incredible story you have, Anne. If that's not evidence of contact with those who have crossed over, then I don't know what is.
I'm not sure if there are too many on this forum who specialize in psychic readings and such but I'm also a member of the Sonia Choquette discussion forums and quite a few of the members there do readings, tarot, crystals, and related activities for others.
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I'd suggest you focus on the 'The Psychic Pathway' section. If you tell them your story, I'm sure someone would be able to provide you the answers you seek.
God bless,
Steve