[JMononoetoe]

I just had an almost self-development coaching talk with my mother about how life is at the moment. In the beginning of the chat she was going on about how much she doesn't like her partner and how he behaves, and I kept asking untill she started talking about herself.
So the truth is that she feels quite unhappy and unrecognized.

I wanted to tell her more about how intention and subjective reality would work, but I didn't, simply because I found that I still don't completely understand it, and that it might actually cause the conversation to go the wrong way. So I kept at asking her that now that she knows what she doesn't want, to think about what she does want. Interestingly enough she said she hadn't really thought about it and didn't really know, but eventually she came up with some things.

During the conversation I found that it's actually quite hard to guide someone using the principles of intention-manifestation. I personally believe that you attract what is dominant in your thoughts and that you experience a subjective reality (although I'm still learning to get used to the subjective reality thing).
During the conversation however, I found these principles to be quite hard to use effectively when trying to help someone. Am I really going to tell her that she (unconsciously) is manifesting all this trouble? Am I really going to say that it's basically her fault that she's in this mess in the first place?
Of course it's her fault, or rather her responsibility. It's just really hard to grasp that it is you who hurts you, even though it's objectively someone else who's shouting at you all the time.

So that's when I came to the next point. I was thinking... In such a relationship drama, are you supposed to leave because this situation doesn't do you any good, or are you supposed to apply the principles of subjective reality and I-M so to 'fix' the relationship?

The first option sounds valid to me, but subjective reality tells me that if I would have a relationship problem, it would always be my responsibility. That would mean that leaving is just ignoring the problem, doesn't it?

The second option seems to fit more with the principles. You would change something about yourself that is causing the trouble in the first place. You would intend for the relationship to be how you want it and you would intend for yourself to become a relatively better person.
However, this option is almost out of the question. It doesn't seem very logical nor does it feel humane. If you've basically been in an emotionally heavy relationship for years, you really just don't want to be with this person anymore. If the love isn't there anymore, I don't see how you can possibly make it any better.

I think I'm missing something here. I'm thinking that subjective reality is telling me to tell her that she should stay with her partner and think him into being different by thinking differently, because it is her thinking that's causing all this in the first place.
I think I'm really missing a big piece here, because it doesn't make sense to me at all and it doesn't resonate with me either. Can't subjective reality also tell me to tell her to leave him?

I mean... In this relationship there is no resonance between the partners. Isn't the ultimate goal to find happiness in life? If you just don't resonate with someone, isn't it so that you will go look for someone else? After all, aren't you supposed to be close to yourself?

As you might have noticed, the conversation left me very confused about my own ideas. I did help my mother out a bit, but I feel like I didn't help her as much as I could've helped her.
This post is probably a little confusing and I hope you can make sense out of my thinking. You'll have to excuse me about that. Could someone please help me out though? How does subjective reality and I-M come into this situation?

Thanks in advance...