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belugagirl · 12-30-2006, 07:28 PM

I don't know how divorce laws work in the UK, but I used to work in a law office in the states, and debt resolution is often part of the economic settlement of the divorce, or certain debts are assigned to one party or the other. You may be entitled to some sort of spousal support from your husband, especially if his income is greater than yours and if you have been the primary caregiver for your children. If your home is jointly held, it could be sold (or he could buy you out) to help you pay off debts are relocate. Please consult an attorney as soon as possible to find out what your options are. Most divorce lawyers in the states will give an initial consultation for free; perhaps you can get SOME information or direction for free as well.

Hang in there. I can't imagine how you must be hurting, especially after discovering the dishonesty. Allow yourself to grieve, but know that you are strong. Your children need you. And it sounds like he's letting you take them with you, which is a big relief. At least you (hopefully) won't find yourself in the middle of a nasty international custody feud. That could be worse. It's hard, but where there's a will there's a way. And I'm glad you still have some will to cling to. I'm going to go intend for some money to find its way to you. Good luck, dear!

12-30-2006, 07:28 PM	#14 (permalink)
belugagirl Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 59	Divorce Settlement? I don't know how divorce laws work in the UK, but I used to work in a law office in the states, and debt resolution is often part of the economic settlement of the divorce, or certain debts are assigned to one party or the other. You may be entitled to some sort of spousal support from your husband, especially if his income is greater than yours and if you have been the primary caregiver for your children. If your home is jointly held, it could be sold (or he could buy you out) to help you pay off debts are relocate. Please consult an attorney as soon as possible to find out what your options are. Most divorce lawyers in the states will give an initial consultation for free; perhaps you can get SOME information or direction for free as well. Hang in there. I can't imagine how you must be hurting, especially after discovering the dishonesty. Allow yourself to grieve, but know that you are strong. Your children need you. And it sounds like he's letting you take them with you, which is a big relief. At least you (hopefully) won't find yourself in the middle of a nasty international custody feud. That could be worse. It's hard, but where there's a will there's a way. And I'm glad you still have some will to cling to. I'm going to go intend for some money to find its way to you. Good luck, dear!