There's a lot of deep emotional ties and memories that I have with my parents and perhaps someday I will be able to help them, but right now at the ripe age of 19 having just fled the nest I am not really capable of helping them in that way when a year or two ago they were helping me emotionally. Just because someone is at a higher level of consciousness than someone else doesn't mean they are able to bring them up, although I'm not saying it's impossible in my situation. I just think that certain ways of doing it are inappropriate. In my ideal relationship with my parents I would rather set a good example of what I think to be appropriate behaviors than function as the descendant confidant. All of this became clear to me after the last situation and I am just now striving to make the change.
As far as being judgemental, I don't really see the harm in identifying obvious negative behaviors such as anger and depression. If I refused form even rough conclusions about simple emotional states then it would be very easy to surround myself with harmful people and situations, don't you think?
