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Originally Posted by David21  Well, I can certainly see your point. I think a person estimates their own self-worth by how others treat them, speak with them and value them and if this is not something you have had much of then your confidence will be at rock bottom. I know mine is! |
I'm glad to hear someone else admit this. It seems like most people in here are quick to say "but if you have confidence in yourself,others will too!" that has only worked for me in situations where i was actually good at whatever it was. If i am not good at verbal communication,just being confident about it isnt going to make me good at it. You can try faking it,but that only works while you are putting conscious thought to it,so it requires constant thinking and hard work,IF you are lucky and dont slip up.
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I kinda know how you feel in this respect because I too lack the ability to verbally communicate with skill, or at least, not at first anyway. I always stammer and mix my words up in my sentences - its really annoying because people interpret it wrongly. Once a person gets to know me I find that I start to open up and talk well. Admittedly, I do still have this stammer occasionally but it is nothing like what it is when I first talk to someone.
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Yes! Me too!
Sometimes i wonder why i even stammer when talking to people i've known for years but it happens,and thats proof that whatever you are feeling or thinking inside,you are either good at something or youre not. I stammer talking to my closest friends and my own brother most of the time!
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Is it that you are too picky or that you know who is right for you? I've wondered whether I am too picky but then I realize that I just know what is right for me and what is not. Perhaps you're the same?
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Well both i think...i'm picky as far as looks but personality and moral-wise,i know what is right for me there.
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Try and meet people who don't refer to you as 'babe' upon first seeing you - it's more likely an indication of how much respect they will have for you.
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Well that is why i have a hard time finding a guy because 99% of them ARE that way. I only have ONE guy on my email list who isnt that way and he is married and he's not after me. It's like if a guy is trying to find a girl he automatically turns perverted but if he's married,he is normal
Maybe thats why guys with girlfriends seem more attractive because they are just being themselves,they're not trying to impress anyone by buttering them up with compliments. That's why i hate dating because guys feel like they have to do that and you cant get to know them as a person because they're too busy trying to get with you or impress you so they CAN get with you.