Hey, laur, you're still suffering from the same crappy thinking that you've been generating for awhile, so I'm going to give you the same advice I gave you last time, and see if it sinks in this time: (by the way, you are not crappy, you are wonderful, loveable and gorgeous; it's your habitual thinking that is unconsciously running you that is crappy.)
As I see it, the most effective thing you could do is to take 100% responsibility for your own satisfaction and fulfillment. Be the cause of it. Either drop the crap and choose to trust him to be exactly who he is and exactly who he isn't in the relationship, or choose not to trust him and let him go. The way it is now, you've got both of you locked up in the jail of no trust. YOU do. Not him. You. The good news is that you have the power to set you both free, whether you stay in this relationship or leave.
I suspect that you won't ever trust this guy or any other guy until you learn to trust yourself. One way to trust yourself is to be a person who is worthy of trust, and that is something you have not been being -- have you apologized to him for reading his email, and assured him that you'll never do it again? This isn't the first time you invaded his privacy, is it?
If you love this guy and feel very courageous, you can work on your self-trust issues inside of this relationship. But you're not really available for a real loving, long term, mutually beneficial relationship until you take this on for yourself. It's not him; it's you. I recommend Byron Katie's The Work to you -- it's a really great way to get a new perspective on what you've been creating in your relationship.
By the way, Danger Man and I both talk to our exes often.
Good luck -- I know it's not easy. It's
simple, but not easy!
