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Originally Posted by David21  You should have more confidence in yourself, Rockchick but, having said that, I realize it is easier said than done. |
Well,to me,confidence is something i can easily have regarding something that i get good results with. but if i don't get good results,then i know there is no reason for confidence. For example,i have confidence to sing karaoke (even when sober!) cuz i love music and i love to sing and most of the time i do a good job,i've only really sucked at it twice,but 2 times out of 30 or 40 is very good! So therefore i do have confidence in that. As well as my job,i always do a wonderful job and i know i'm a better worker and better at my job than most of the other people who do it,so i have boatloads of confidence there.
But i dont have confidence when it comes to dating because i have never once gotten to date a guy that i liked,it was always the guy coming after me and i felt forced to date them. I never got the guys i wanted,i had to settle for the guys that liked me. And i lack confidence in my communication skills because it is a FACT that i suck at talking and 99% of the time i embarrass myself and i hate the way i talk yet its so hard to change (impossible,so far).
So yeah i have no problem with confidence,if its something i am good at and something i get good results from.
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I'd always hoped it would be reflective of their nature i.e. if I find them in a library or some other quiet place they are more likely to be quiet in nature, kind and not into multiple partners. It's the worst stereotype and absolutely isn't true but I can't help sometimes associating people at clubs. pubs and parties as those how would be unfamiliar with commitment.
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I understand,and i feel the same way! And every time i go in a bar,i'm reminded of this,and within 10 minutes i want to go home. At least if you meet someone in a library or something,you arent expected to go home together after closing time LOL
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I've had this kind of optimism for years! 'It might happen', I say 'you never know'. I just cling on to hope. But I guess there is some truth in it - it really could happen anywhere. I went to a party the other night myself. My friend met someone but I didn't. It felt awful but I still held on to hope. What else could i do? I wouldn't force anything to happen because that's not what I want but at the same time I have to open situations in my life that will give me a chance.
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Yep,me too! And i cant help but feel like for other people this works but for me it doesn't. I know i'm just too picky with guys though,i always want the ones that i want and not the ones that end up wanting me (the ones lower on the ladder...if you are familiar with the Ladder Theory,from my other posts)
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It rarely pays off for me either. Somehow, though and for some reason I just keep on going with the idea that tomorrow is another day.
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I have this same undying hope,and you'd think that would be good for something but apparently hope is not a major factor in finding love LOL
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But that's the thing with me, I have had opportunities in my life but I always held back because in my heart I felt that it wasn't right. My friend tells me I should take more of these opportunities but I just can't. I don't want to share these moments with just any one. I need it to be the right person - surely that is not wrong?
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No its not wrong,i'm the same way. I've had many opportunities too,in fact just today i got 2 messages on Myspace from 2 guys saying i was a "babe". Now i could date them but my first reaction is "ugh,a babe!? why dont guys ever think with their BRAINS for once,its the first message and theyre already commenting on my looks!" I mean,i'm attracted to hot guys too but i would NEVER call them "gorgeous" or "babe" or "sexy" right off the bat!