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Originally Posted by laur_454  He told me that we can only fix our relationship if I can learn to trust him. |
Hey Laur,
He's pretty good in turning it around and making you doubt yourself. It's a quality trait that most liars (and cheaters) have. The key is to be sure of yourself but you aren't so I'll try to help with that.
People who have cheated on all of their ex's will continue to cheat. Somehow we (yes me too) shine away from that fact and focus on the good stuff. Meanwhile the wool is being pulled over our eyes and lean into doubt.
Liars lie, thieves steal and cheaters...will cheat. I can't say that he is cheating on for certain but that doesn't matter, although I strongly suspect it and so do you. What he has done so far is grounds for termination of the relationship.
He leaks sexual energy outside of the relationship to his ex-gf. He lies to you about that. It's not small little white lies that can be forgiven but major ones like deaths that never happened. Like I said before liars will continue to lie. Makes you wonder what else he has lied to you about?
If I were you I would cancel the whole trip. It's not cruel because you are not the one who decided to cancel the trip, he did-you are simply having self respect for yourself. HE created this situation by his actions. If he had been honest and faithful you wouldn't be posting on this forum but that's not the case.
He also has cheater friends. 'Likes attract likes'. He is attracting other fine characters that lack integrity. The signs are all there but you need to decide whether or not you want to pay attention to them.
Give this a read:
Being Cheated On
Take care