One of the easier ways is to just be an all around social guy, not just towards women. If you only try to talk to women you are just driving the wedge between men and women deeper and reinforcing that they should be interacted with differently. A bad side effect of this is that you also become dependent on receiving some sort of positive reaction from them to make yourself feel good. Ultimately, this leads to you to seeking validation from attractive women. Even if you become good at getting positive validation, it still leaves you empty inside.
One of the simpler ways to break this barrier down is not to try to simply get good at talking to women, but get better to talking to people in general. Talk to everyone. Men, women, young, old, pretty, ugly, gay, straight, etc. Now, I'm not saying everyone is worthy of your time and conversation. If you run across someone who is particularly boring/snotty/or with other undesirable personality qualities, you are perfectly free to walk away. Talk to people that you would like to have conversation with regardless of their physical characteristics. You put less emphasis on what they look like and more importance on who they really are. That way you are better at being social and see people for who they really are. Eventually, once you are good with people in general, it doesn't phase you to talk to an attractive girl, because she is just another person.
I'm not saying that you become blind to attractiveness, rather you become desensitized to it. You are still just as capable of recognizing beauty but are no longer socially paralyzed because of it. If anything, you become better at recognizing real beauty because you can quickly tell the difference between someone who is pretty on the outside and hideous on the inside, and someone who is pretty throughout. It gives you freedom to decide who you really want in your life. Best of all, being a genuinely social person really helps with making friends since you get so much better at just kicking back and enjoying yourself around anyone.
Try a 30 day challenge where you strike up conversations with anyone. It seems a little creepy at first, but the key is to go into it without an agenda. Just strike up conversation however it suits your fancy. When I was doing this, I would chat with people in line at the DMV, introduce myself at parties, etc. If you can develop the skill of talking to a guy just for the sake socializing and without intent to get anything from him, you can learn to do the same thing with girls. Being able to talk to a girl without needing to get a reaction out of a girl gives you lots of success.
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