I didn't have the exact situation but something similar. My brother and I used to be very close until he started to develop an ego to cover up his insecurities. It took time but I eventually accepted his decision to put distance between me and my family.
I realize that people who are stuck on their paths don't change unless they want to. They are addicted to their situation in a sense. No amount of telling them what they are doing is hurting those around them. They need to learn and understand what is going on for themselves. They need to hit rock bottom before waking up.
By the way, calling your sister angry is not being pessimistic, it's being honest. You can see the good in everyone (which is a great trait to have) but you need to be clear about what they are doing.
Pessimism only happens if you judge someone or something, if you add a good or bad label to it. For example, you call someone who is overweight fat. There's nothing wrong with that because they are in fact fat. It's a bad thing only when you judge them and feel superior to them in some way.
Positive thinking doesn't mean you disregard the truth all together.
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