Personal Development for Smart People Forums - View Single Post - How to lose everything in life, and still be ok and excited about creating a new life

stealth87 · 11-23-2008, 05:49 PM

I first read the title to this post and felt compelled to go ahead and answer without reading the replies.

My intuition told me otherwise, and I took time to read them all.

Seeker5, your final reply resonates with me. I am going to share my story. I lost my girlfriend, job and passion for my career. Furthermore, my dream and goal of continuing to live in the US, especially in NYC, has been severely compromised.

Needless to say, this took a big hit on my life. I had attached my self worth to all of these factors, and when I lost them, I felt completely hopeless and depressed.

We all have desires, needs and incessant wanting. But what you said Seeker, is right on point. These things come and go and are not stable. Trying to find yourself in a job or the right 'lifestyle' is futile, because it is not permanent.

I feel blessed to have lost what I was so attached to. There is a huge difference between knowing about this situation and actually living it.

It has been painful but necessary, and everyone at some point goes through it. It is the realization of being instead of having.

A lot of religions point to the losing of self or the ego. Many people know about this, but few actually live it. The ego or false sense of self is what you are protecting. That is what you fear; not the things you are to lose.

I am going through this right now, and am observing the attachments and conditioning of my 'self'. It is beautiful to surrender to life and live in the moment. I have never felt so alive, even though my external conditions are not optimal.

11-23-2008, 05:49 PM	#22 (permalink)
stealth87 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 29	I first read the title to this post and felt compelled to go ahead and answer without reading the replies. My intuition told me otherwise, and I took time to read them all. Seeker5, your final reply resonates with me. I am going to share my story. I lost my girlfriend, job and passion for my career. Furthermore, my dream and goal of continuing to live in the US, especially in NYC, has been severely compromised. Needless to say, this took a big hit on my life. I had attached my self worth to all of these factors, and when I lost them, I felt completely hopeless and depressed. We all have desires, needs and incessant wanting. But what you said Seeker, is right on point. These things come and go and are not stable. Trying to find yourself in a job or the right 'lifestyle' is futile, because it is not permanent. I feel blessed to have lost what I was so attached to. There is a huge difference between knowing about this situation and actually living it. It has been painful but necessary, and everyone at some point goes through it. It is the realization of being instead of having. A lot of religions point to the losing of self or the ego. Many people know about this, but few actually live it. The ego or false sense of self is what you are protecting. That is what you fear; not the things you are to lose. I am going through this right now, and am observing the attachments and conditioning of my 'self'. It is beautiful to surrender to life and live in the moment. I have never felt so alive, even though my external conditions are not optimal.