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Originally Posted by helgi  The two options available to introverts as I've seen discussed is either to avoid people, or attempting to "become" extroverts. The former is a good way of avoiding suffering and the latter may work to some extent in the short run, but the only true solution as I see it is to go beyond it without needing to resort to avoidance or effort. |
Actually from my experience as an introvert those 2 are not at all options.
The only option I see is to become a better introvert.
Socionics can help a lot by providing insights on how people are and interact.
If you discover your type and push in the direction of your type you will become a more valuable individual because your energy is spent on what other people need you to spend it
Spending your energy in your true call, turns you into a pure gold mine for your dual.
One of the traps I've fallen into as an introvert is not enough exposure... (first option) This is bad, really bad because we are social beings and we need to be among others...
Exposure does not equal extroversion... I too feel unease at parties but that does not mean that I hate them all together... Going once in a while to a party together with a buffer group (someone to provide a safe haven in the midst of all the commotion) is a good thing. Also, joining groups is another good thing.
The key to turning all this dreadful things into something to enjoy is having the buffer, having the protection of an extroverted friend, the protection of someone who feels like a fish in the water at these kind of gatherings.