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dice · 11-23-2008, 06:42 AM

My sister is the absolute epitome of teen angst. if there was a picture in the dictionary next to the word, it should be hers.

Dont get me wrong, I'm always looking for the good side of people and I hate to be pessimistic (irony!) - but she worries me. alot. and I don't know what to do.

she's in grade 11. usually by that age people have grown out of whatever hormonal discharge clogging their brains. she's always scowling, materialistic, obsessive about her possesions, she steals, fakes illnesses, hangs out at the mall all day, swears constantly, is constantly pissed off at the entire world, is failing school and working harder to make excuses. Listens to marilyn manson and ozzy. loves animals, buys a lot of them for the novelty, maybe bragging rights (hamsters, fish, cheap stuff) neglects them and leaves someone else to be responsible for them. She tucks that person away sometimes and is polite to family members and people she respects, but can never stop blaming other people for her problems. screams at my mother for "stealing her clothes" to "put them in the wash"

It's completely ridiculous stuff.

She has an easy life. Never been beaten or bullied, she has a few friends (who i think are like minded), parents are supportive and extremely lenient. neither spoiled nor deprived. theres no outside cause.

We grew up in the exact same household, but our mindsets are POLAR opposite.

the thing that bothers me most about this - and the thing i am most ashamed of in the entire world - is that we live in the same house but haven't talked for years. when we were 6-7 we got along really well, she was the most adorable little thing and i don't understand how it happened...

I literally cannot find it in myself to talk to her. She turns any innocent bit of communication into a fight or a blame game, so i've just given up.

Today it really started to bother me - some friends have seen her and started commenting openly on the same things. She is extremely angry - but has nothing to be angry about.

It doesnt affect my life directly, but it pains me to see once good people walking around so spiteful about life.

I hope it will resolve itself, but its only getting worse.

I might suggest to my parents to send her to a bootcamp or something to make her appreciate life a little more,

anyhow, i've dealt with the situation by just accepting her, and ignoring her, and getting on with life.

can anyone relate?

11-23-2008, 06:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
dice Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 435	HELP! Angsty teenager sister :S My sister is the absolute epitome of teen angst. if there was a picture in the dictionary next to the word, it should be hers. Dont get me wrong, I'm always looking for the good side of people and I hate to be pessimistic (irony!) - but she worries me. alot. and I don't know what to do. she's in grade 11. usually by that age people have grown out of whatever hormonal discharge clogging their brains. she's always scowling, materialistic, obsessive about her possesions, she steals, fakes illnesses, hangs out at the mall all day, swears constantly, is constantly pissed off at the entire world, is failing school and working harder to make excuses. Listens to marilyn manson and ozzy. loves animals, buys a lot of them for the novelty, maybe bragging rights (hamsters, fish, cheap stuff) neglects them and leaves someone else to be responsible for them. She tucks that person away sometimes and is polite to family members and people she respects, but can never stop blaming other people for her problems. screams at my mother for "stealing her clothes" to "put them in the wash" It's completely ridiculous stuff. She has an easy life. Never been beaten or bullied, she has a few friends (who i think are like minded), parents are supportive and extremely lenient. neither spoiled nor deprived. theres no outside cause. We grew up in the exact same household, but our mindsets are POLAR opposite. the thing that bothers me most about this - and the thing i am most ashamed of in the entire world - is that we live in the same house but haven't talked for years. when we were 6-7 we got along really well, she was the most adorable little thing and i don't understand how it happened... I literally cannot find it in myself to talk to her. She turns any innocent bit of communication into a fight or a blame game, so i've just given up. Today it really started to bother me - some friends have seen her and started commenting openly on the same things. She is extremely angry - but has nothing to be angry about. It doesnt affect my life directly, but it pains me to see once good people walking around so spiteful about life. I hope it will resolve itself, but its only getting worse. I might suggest to my parents to send her to a bootcamp or something to make her appreciate life a little more, anyhow, i've dealt with the situation by just accepting her, and ignoring her, and getting on with life. can anyone relate?