Angela has a point. Your situation typical and atypical in some ways. Parents want what's best for their kids, and that usually means what they're familiar with.
There's a number of issues here. One is your parents' treatment of you and your interest, and there is also your emotions. As for your emotions, the most difficult (but most effective) recommendation I can give yuo is to remember that you love your parents and let that love bleed out your anger. There's other ways to deal with emotions, and I'm sure many o fhtem are mentioned on the forums.
As for your parents, you can have a direct conversation with them about these issues. Keep in mind that their perspective is different and be open to listening and understanding it. Seek first to understand and then be understood. I would recommend picking up a few books on communication (Crucial Conversations is a very good one, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People also has some great information) to help smooth out the process.
You can also continue to demonstrate your maturity. Let them know that making mistakes is a part of growing up. They are probably afraid of failure in their own lives, so this might entail helping to change their views on mistakes and failure. Parents have to become reaqainted with their children as they grow up, and it can be a difficult process for both parents and children. Don't get angry and remember that you love them.
Without being critical, your mother's words on your changing later and ignoring her/them sound like the insecurity of a mother and you would probably be well served by placating that concern of hers.
Remember that you parents are human and that they are emotional beings, so when you're thinking about solutions, keep in mind their feelings, thoughts and views. You can never understand other people too much.
HTH and Good luck!
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