Originally Posted by phoenixxx
I don't think physically inserting yourself into the circle was a good idea. It would feel like you were intruding on someone elses conversation.
I used to not do that. I would just sort of sit around, make eye contact, maybe say a quiet hello, and then nothing would come of it. I've watched some people who I consider have good social skills, and then seem to take charge. They literally walk up to groups and barge into the middle of conversations. Maybe they'd even touch someone on the shoulder and give them social clues to open up the circle. I used to think that was obnoxious until I realized that everyone loved these people. So I now try to do the same, but I guess I'm not assertive enough. I've seen people completely drunk make complete asses of themselves by barging into a conversation and making a really inappropriate comment. People seem to love that too.
For example, I was talking to a Russian girl at this party, and this guy I sort of know just walks into our conversation and starts talking to her. He finds out she's Russian and they start talking in Russian (which I don't understand). Eventually, I realize I can't participate in this conversation and try to politely slink away. Was that rude of him? Probably. But I guarantee you that if you asked her who she liked more, she liked him.