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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  That would be lying, which is stupid... just don't. |
Wow way to shut down what I thought was a good idea. I wasn't trying to find this guy an authentic long term relationship, I was just trying to find him a good excuse for why he's never had sex so that it can come off smoothly when he meets women. Not to be mean at all, but there are some very negative societal assumptions about men who haven't had sex in their 20s, and most women (not those that are on these forums) will immediately assume those unless he has a good reason (which I gave him).
I understand where he's coming from and I think this sort of thing is especially taxing for men because so much of a man's ego is tied into how well he can relate to women. I didn't kiss a girl until I was 19, and I found it extremely difficult to live with at times.
Here is the real truth for men: Unless you are very fortunate you will NEVER be given girls. Girls will never fall into your lap. Don't believe any of the hype that somehow you will meet the girl of your dreams without doing anything. The very MAX you will be given is a girl giving you subtle signals that she likes you. That's it. No gimmies. No freebies. You have to go after the girls you want and conquer your fears.
Erock