My understanding of darkworker is selfish or self-centered, which absolutely describes people with kids.
Let me preface this by saying I don't hate kids or fault people for doing things that are self serving. One day I think I might like to have kids. I am just explaining what I've observed in the parents I've met.
Having kids has got to be one of the most selfish things a person can do. I see my female friends getting pregnant for all the attention. They do it to have someone to control. They do it because they're very lonely and a child goes everywhere with you. Some do it to selfishly save a dying marriage, and the sad thing they don't know is the stress of a new baby is likely to make things worse. Some people desperately want to spread their values out into the world, and when they realize they can't force others to change, they have kids so they'll have someone guaranteed to pass on their beliefs. Some people are just so lazy and self-centered that it was too much work to find a condom, so they end up being parents because it's too much work to find an adoption agency.
And this is further evidenced by the situations people choose to keep kids in. Crack-addict single moms who fights the courts to keep their kids, just to have the child later beaten to death by the drug-using boyfriend. Fifteen year old girls who think having a baby is like having a doll, and insist on keeping their "doll" when the teens can't even take care of themselves. Or the worst is probably kids caught in the middle of a divorce; parents fighting over ownership of the kids not for the kids sake but to deprive the other partner.
I don't know anyone in modern American who has kids because it helps the greater good. It's not like the human race is in danger of dying out. And when some parts of the world are already overcrowded and resources are being stretched to accommodate the people we already have, wouldn't having kids be a great example of someone who did something against the greater good of the whole?
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