I so feel for you.
I moved to Switzerland at the age of 19 to escape my loveless and dysfunctional family. I am also a musician. And even though I am not financially dependent on my family, they still insist on coming out of the woodwork every so often and writing or calling.
It would be great to tell them that I wish for absolutely no contact, but some part of me resists causing them that kind of pain.
If I had to suggest something to you, it would be to become financially independent ASAP or transfer to a school where contact is less possible. Perhaps it would help to set rules of conduct for your parents? Try writing them an unemotional letter saying:
1. If (insert behavior here) occurs, I will leave the house and there will be no contact for 30 days.
2. ...
3. ...
The reaction will probably be heavy at first, but eventually they will calm down.
Also, consider finding a good therapist for yourself (they often offer this service for free on campus - feel free to try out a few therapists to find one right for you) and talking about this stuff.
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Last edited by Michelle : 12-29-2006 at 07:24 AM.
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