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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  What you're describing is a practice that's very common among people with low self-esteem... especially with people who are overweight. I don't know if you're overweight, but it's a self-esteem issue in any event. People with genuinely high self-esteem simply don't live like this.
What would happen if you were submissive and loving at work or confident and strong with your friends and husband?
What do you think would happen if you stopped living in such a fragmented way and began expressing a more holistic personality?
Give those questions a little thought to see where they lead you. Most likely you'll end up facing some fear of rejection. |
I do not have a low self esteem. I know I am a great person, and worthy of everything I want from life.
I am not overweight either.
If I was submissive and loving at work I would not be successful at it. I would not reach the targets that I have set myself to accomplish and I would not be happy.
If I was strong with my husband I would not be happy. I do not want to be strong with him, I want to be submissive.
I know that my husband would never reject me, no matter what I would do or say, and other people.. I don't really care if they reject me or not, since if they would, they are not worth my time anyway...
What I am describing (i think) is a practice very common in a lot of people, not (just) people with low self esteem.
I would never want to give up any of this. I like my extremes and I like that I have places where I can be myself, my different selves.