Hey! Pretty cool thread. I think a pretty important distinction is your view of virginity. Most on this thread see it as a negative thing and even a sign of failure or shortcoming. I can see that view, even though I don't hold it.
My experience was completely different. I was a virgin by choice until I married at 28. I chose to marry later because there were a lot of things I wanted to achieve in my life and in my youth that would be difficult to do as a married guy. I did them all.
Secondly, I considered my virginity an asset -- kind of like the stash of cash I kept in an account to buy a ring and honeymoon with when I met the right girl. Actually, the virginity was much more emotional than that, but I did feel that it was something I owned. And it was something hard to keep. But I kept it.
When I met my wife to be and I knew that our relationship was going somewhere that I liked, I let her know that I was a virgin. I was glad to be able to tell her that because I felt I was giving her the something that I'd been saving for years. I was giving her my inexperience, naivete, passion and myself with absolutely no images in my imagination of anyone else. She was my first on our wedding night.
I have absolutely no regrets, never any doubts. I spent my virginity in the right place. Simply for your consideration!
Peace,
SeanOG
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