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Originally Posted by metamorph  To me sex is like dancing. On the one hand it is a skill. So if you practice you will get better, and women who are merely interested in the physical aspect of sex (with no emotions attached) will prefer someone who is more experienced. However, like in dancing there are natural talents. So it is not impossible, that you will be good, because in spite of your lacking experience you simply have a feel for it (you will still get better later on).
On the other hand, having sex among lovers is also an emotional act. It is just great no matter how good you are technically. Just like that dance with the girl you had a major crush on in high-school. When you forgot about the room and about the moves. When you never danced before, but no matter how you moved your feet and body, both of you were in a different world... So, if you are truly falling in love with someone, the technical side of sex gets more and more into the background.
Another question you may want to ask yourself is why you are a virgin? Do you actually want to be intimate and have sex? |
Brilliant post! The comparison with dancing is spot on.
The last question is crucial: to have sex is also to surrender to the love you're feeling. For some people this is their major stumbling block, especially people that want to keep everything under control. On the other hand. I have been long periods without sex. Not because I couldn't "pull a girl" but because I only wanted to be so intimate with someone I really love.
Thanks for the insight.