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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  Why hide this info from your employer? Why try to work somewhere where you have to hide a part of yourself every day you go to work? |
I do not believe that you can be the same person at your job, as you can be at home, as you can be with your friends etc.
That has nothing to do with you being ashamed of anything.
At my job I am a self confident, successful and strong sales and business woman.
With my friends I am a supportive and fun person to be around
With my husband I am his wife and everything that that means to me (be not-strong, submissive and loving).
Even tough some elements may shine through in different areas they are not the main of what I am. And that is ok. I do not have to be only 1 thing. Depending on the situation I can be different and still be myself and be happy with myself.
I am not ashamed of anything. If for whatever reason my boss would find out that I am submissive to my husband.. well.. if he cares, that is his problem. More likely he wouldn't care. If he thinks he can fire me over that or walk all over me after that.. well, since I am at work I am a strong person and I will set him right.
It is healing to "confess" something you feel uncomfortable with. But I also think it will be so much better if you would do it with somebody who is part of that bit of your life, and not to the wrong people.