*raises hand* 29 year old virgin here.
And i'm guilty of posting a few threads while dealing with my own virginity on this forum, and troubling a few of my closest friends to help me feel better when I'm down.
I am doing much, much better now. I try zen philosophy to Katie Byrons' the work.
Usually virginity leads to some very limiting beliefs about yourself, and as someone already pointed out - those beliefs hamper your confidence and thus chances with women.
Some of the limiting beliefs i am having difficulty letting go are:
1) Only attractive, sexy, confident people have sex as teens and in thier early twenties. Hence I am not attractive sexy or confident
2) Guys who've slept around are cool, manly, held in high regard by the opposite sex. Hence I am not cool, manly or held in high regard.
3) The best sex is when your hormones are raging which is when you're a teenager to early twenties. after that sexual disfuntions occur. So I have lost out on the best sexual years of my life.
But apply katie Byrons' the work for example to any of these issues. Ask yourself:
1) Is it true?
2) Can you absolutely know that it's true?
3) How do you react when you believe that thought?
4) Who would you be without the thought?
5) If you reverse it, does it sound equally if not more true?
Just take question number 2 alone and look at those beliefs, and they melt away.
Br confident. Be happy.
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