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Originally Posted by SupersecretIdentity  Heres some perspective on sex that Virgins don't often hear
Sex isn't a big deal. You don't feel any different, it's not as special and good as the media makes it out to be. After the first time, you're first reaction will probably be "Is that it?"
You will suck the first time. It's a fact, don't dwell on it. Don't expect to be good at first, but do be willing to learn and experiment.
Having sex once WILL NOT CHANGE YOU. Going from a Virgin to a non virgin is not a mystical transformation. You will still have anxiety after the first time. You will still be bad at it. You won't be much better with women after losing your virginity.
Sex is messy. Seriously, its gross. Hollywood makes it out to be very romantic and sweet. It's not. Its primal. It's dirty. It easy to do wrong.
Don't look at sex as something that will fix you or hurt you. It will happen on it's own naturally. Just worry about being yourself and not making a big deal out of it and everything will fall in place. Not easy advice to take, but so, so true. |
And OP thought he had a problem!!! Your sexuality is part of your personality - who you are. If you are not able to embrace it, you have a BIG problem. Sex is the a very beautiful thing if done with the man/woman you truly care about with an open heart and mind. It is not dirty or messy! It is an art in its own kind. Just like a wonderful dance. You take responsibility for your own pleasure and try with all your being to give pleasure to the one you love.
Yes it can be ugly but only if it is "misused" and manipulated with. But when making love is something honest and wanted it is the best!
I agree that Hollywood has done great damage to a lot of aspects of life that are much more down to Earth then they are portrayed in the film industry. But saying sex is just this thing you do is not true.
And to answer the OP's dilema... learn, open your mind and soul and you heart and learn. It is a skill like any other. You need practice and it will all be just fine.