Heres some perspective on sex that Virgins don't often hear
Sex isn't a big deal. You don't feel any different, it's not as special and good as the media makes it out to be. After the first time, you're first reaction will probably be "Is that it?"
You will suck the first time. It's a fact, don't dwell on it. Don't expect to be good at first, but do be willing to learn and experiment.
Having sex once WILL NOT CHANGE YOU. Going from a Virgin to a non virgin is not a mystical transformation. You will still have anxiety after the first time. You will still be bad at it. You won't be much better with women after losing your virginity.
Sex is messy. Seriously, its gross. Hollywood makes it out to be very romantic and sweet. It's not. Its primal. It's dirty. It easy to do wrong.
Don't look at sex as something that will fix you or hurt you. It will happen on it's own naturally. Just worry about being yourself and not making a big deal out of it and everything will fall in place. Not easy advice to take, but so, so true.
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