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Originally Posted by pterodactyl  While it is cathartic to share like this, is nobody worried that this information might be used against them? While I do agree with Steve's ideas, we all must live in the hard cold real world. These words and sentiments are wonderful, but with the click of a mouse anyone who bears you ill for any reason may be able to obtain information to use against you. Many of us have jobs that are crucial to our life paths, involving working for others who have power over us. I know Steve would encourage such a person to quit their job, but if that is not feasible because doing that work is an integral part of your path, then it is unwise, in my opinion, to share one's shame freely over the internet.
Share shame with a trusted source, not the whole world. |
[Note: "You" in this post is referring to a larger you, not this poster individually.]
Steve's point is to let down your guard, not pull down your pants and wag your willy at oncoming traffic. Even so, admitting one's shame often isn't as detrimental as it seems, the key factor is what's stopping you from doing it. If you're afraid then you need to bust through that fear ASAP. It doesn't matter if it means giving up something crucial in the process- it's far easier to forge a new path when you've dropped some dead weight.
The thing is that we've all got skeletons in our closet. Being genuine gives others permission to be genuine. That can backfire, of course it can, but you don't gain anything without taking a risk.
This world isn't cold and hard. Even the people in the world aren't cold and hard. No, you've got people like that, but then you've got other people who are screaming inside, wanting nothing more than to be allowed to be human and express themselves. If you want to help balance or overpower the cold and hard aspects of life, you've got to warm things up starting with bold action on your part. You've got to invigorate the people who are still hiding in their shells. Intelligence has to drive your actions as much as your passion but never, ever hold back because you're afraid.