I've done it via email, like a written letter. It IS easier to craft the best way to say things that way. Can I also recommend that rather than saying things about your friend (that she's too negative), phrase it in terms of yourself and what you want from the people around you? This is a great exercise in positive thinking for yourself, and is less of a poke in the eye for her.
It's also useful to tell her that you've changed. It may actually give her impetus to change herself as well.
I have found this myself, I tried to close a relationship I was in that consisted of me always cheering up a friend who was always complaining, and never doing anything about it. I changed, found that this person was just a lead weight, and examined myself quite closely about it. So I explained in detail over a period, what I'd been doing and what I'd elarnt from our relationship, and why I was looking for new like-minded friends. I don't know if this was related, but now our conversations are about positivity and good things. This person has now made major changes themselves, and is blossoming.
Joy to you
Hazel
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