Had a subtle, but significant breakthrough this weekend, wanted to share. I usually go out with a pretty cool group of friends, and we usually are a (if not THE) center of attention wherever we go. As I've mentioned above, however, I've had trouble approaching women outside my circle -- even when given very strong indicators of interest (strong eye contact w/ smile, etc.). Basically, I felt that my "attraction game" was huge, but I had nowhere to go from there. Lame.
So maybe I had too many vodka-redbulls out on the town this weekend, but I turned into a number-collecting machine -- THIS approach worked very well (inspired, I'm sure, by TTT): "Oh WOW, look at that smile/that strut/you!! What is your name?? Hi, I'm driven1. (hug or handshake) Oh man, I'm being rude to my friends -- I gotta get back with them, but it's great to meet you. Hey, you want to grab a drink next week? Cool, what's your number?"
It's flake-prone, for sure, but at least I'm opening the freakin conversation -- might I add with some very beautiful women. (Seriously, one looked just like Angelina Jolie, lips and all...) The next step for me is either building rapport/comfort up front or after the fact (SMS seems to work well for me), or simply inviting them to a specific event, of which my group has many, and really pulling them into my world. But it's light-years ahead of just chillin with my buds and not pro-actively engaging anybody new.
