what helped me was to ask what lesson i was meant to learn from that event. when the memory of something is so painful, it can be very difficult to find positivity in it in form of personal growth. we often miss the lesson because of this.
you could try meditate for while or whatever it is you do to get to that relaxed state where you feel good. then bring up the image of this event in your minds eye, and ask your higher self/guides/whatever, what you are supposed to learn from this. it surprised me quite a bit, but as soon as i heard the answer, it not only helped me let go, but also forgive the other person because they suddenly became a teacher, not a villain.
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