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Tex2008 · 11-12-2008, 09:18 PM

Hey everyone... Thank you for the advice and insight. Just an update for everyone.

So I saw her this past weekend. We hung out Friday night and all day Saturday. We had a good time and laughed and there was no tension. We even reminisced on dumb / silly things that happened to us while we dated. Some of the dumb or goofy things I did when we dated, we both now laugh at. I did not bring anything up about us getting back together, but I dropped a few hints here and there, expecting no response. In fact, the situation was such that I could drop the hint in a very light-hearted manner. So needless to say it was a fun, drama-free weekend and it was good to see her again.

We do not have any plans right now to see each other in the near future. She lives hundreds of miles away and she is busy with getting her prerequisites out of the way to get into medical school. I believe she is the person I want to spend my life with, but circumstances have proven me wrong in the past. I am not a social introvert and I enjoy hanging out with people and I have numerous friends that are girls. I just can't really bring myself to date any of them when there is her. So I am either convinced and want to focus my efforts on her or I am stuck in the past as funchy mentioned and I am missing out on opportunities. This is why I am seeking advice.

The question I have now is "where do I go from here?" Numerous people have suggested that I wait 6 months to a year to contact her. While I know she is not ready to get back into a relationship with me (and may never be) we are good friends. Our parents know each other and we spent time with both sets of parents when we dated. We both have the same religious beliefs and political viewpoints, so there is much more there than just attraction. In the 2 years we dated, we never got into a huge argument and we were able to maintain our independence of each other. They say actions speak louder than words... can I send her flowers from time to time, or cards wishing her good luck on her tests... can I invite her to friends' weddings... or should I just back out completely and wait for her to say something to me? She did say she would let me know if she changes her mind....

Again, I appreciate everyone's advice and I hope everyone is doing well. Hot Alpha Female, you may have to come to Texas and physically ♥♥♥♥♥ slap me! ;-)

11-12-2008, 09:18 PM	#20 (permalink)
Tex2008 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 20	An Update Hey everyone... Thank you for the advice and insight. Just an update for everyone. So I saw her this past weekend. We hung out Friday night and all day Saturday. We had a good time and laughed and there was no tension. We even reminisced on dumb / silly things that happened to us while we dated. Some of the dumb or goofy things I did when we dated, we both now laugh at. I did not bring anything up about us getting back together, but I dropped a few hints here and there, expecting no response. In fact, the situation was such that I could drop the hint in a very light-hearted manner. So needless to say it was a fun, drama-free weekend and it was good to see her again. We do not have any plans right now to see each other in the near future. She lives hundreds of miles away and she is busy with getting her prerequisites out of the way to get into medical school. I believe she is the person I want to spend my life with, but circumstances have proven me wrong in the past. I am not a social introvert and I enjoy hanging out with people and I have numerous friends that are girls. I just can't really bring myself to date any of them when there is her. So I am either convinced and want to focus my efforts on her or I am stuck in the past as funchy mentioned and I am missing out on opportunities. This is why I am seeking advice. The question I have now is "where do I go from here?" Numerous people have suggested that I wait 6 months to a year to contact her. While I know she is not ready to get back into a relationship with me (and may never be) we are good friends. Our parents know each other and we spent time with both sets of parents when we dated. We both have the same religious beliefs and political viewpoints, so there is much more there than just attraction. In the 2 years we dated, we never got into a huge argument and we were able to maintain our independence of each other. They say actions speak louder than words... can I send her flowers from time to time, or cards wishing her good luck on her tests... can I invite her to friends' weddings... or should I just back out completely and wait for her to say something to me? She did say she would let me know if she changes her mind.... Again, I appreciate everyone's advice and I hope everyone is doing well. Hot Alpha Female, you may have to come to Texas and physically ♥♥♥♥♥ slap me! ;-)