You poor thing. You sound so lonely and the people around you sound so mean. I am not sure what you have done to them to deserve such hostility. I am a very outgoing person and I find it easy to be in many social situations. I always try to be friendly to people who are a bit more shy than me to make them feel more comfortable in difficult social situations. And often after an initial confidence building period, the person would become less shy and will open up more and learn to be more sociable.
But we cannot change other people, the only way we can improve your situation is for you to change yourself. I suggest s few thing that you can do:
1. Change your dressing style to be a bit more conforming to your peer group. Yep superficial I know but that how us human being works in social condition. We tend to group with people who are similar to us. If you don't care what people think and do your own thing and be happy with it than fine. But in this case I think you are not happy with the situation. So try it out it may not be as bas as you thought. It can be really fun. It sort of is easy for me because I am a girl and I like dressing up. For guys it's probably more effort involved than fun. But it's worth it trust me.
2. Read a number of book on how to improve your conversation skill. I have read a few and trust me there are good ideas in those books. and practice, practice, practice.
3. Be brave to put yourself in awkward situations and try out those newly learned techniques. If you get rejected don't get it to heart just brush it off as another lesson learn and move on.
4. Do not reject other people first because of your fear of rejection. After all there is no big investment here on your part other than the willingness to be friendly and have a pleasant conversation. If people don't want to talk to you just think of it as their loss. Do learn from what you do wrong and improve on it next time.
5. Lighten up and do not take yourself seriously. Do not afraid of awkward moments. Just make fun of it if you can feel the tension in the air. Say something stupid like to lighten up the mood. Watch funny movies, they lift your moods, and give you lots of hint for funny conversation. I like Seinfield and Two and a half men. There are many one liners that you can use. Eventually you will be able to think of your own funny lines. But for now just copy other. Just fake it till you make it.
6. Ask other what you have done wrong so you can improve on it. Don't take it as rejection when people tell you what you do wrong. Lots of the time people won't say why they just don't want to hang out with you. For those who do tell you, just thank them for their kindness and try to see if it something that you can change. Sometime people feel releuctant to tell you in person so email is a great tools for this kind of questions. No awkwardness if they don't want to answer.
7. Do be willing to change. For things that you can't change like your look, height, eye color etc. then accept it, for anything else that you can change like your weight, your hygiene, your dressing, your knowledge etc. Do change.
8. Absorb like crazy information around you. One day you be surprise how knowledgable you become. Read newspaper every day to get uptodate news of what happen around you and the world. These give you great amount of conversation. If you run out of things to say. just mention the latest news "Hey did you hear about that story in the news today", "how terrible that things like that would happen" etc. Don't worry if it does not happen overnight. Just keep on reading, the infomation will sink in and one they will just flow out of you so natually.
Good luck. You can do it.
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