Hell no, have your cake and eat it too.
Go after the woman and also be productive at the same time. If you can't do both then something is way out of balance and you aren't aligned with the correct values. Life should just work, but it can take a lot of effort, but it shouldn't be a struggle.
If you are having trouble going from "either/or" to "and", then you will need to re-evaluate your views. There's no rule anywhere that says you have to be less productive because you are in a relationship, or a rule that says that your relationship has to suffer because you choose to work. Perhaps look into yourself to see why this came up for you at all.
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