LordSappington, I think pterodactyl's spitting out some wisdom here. People generally don't want to be around those who drain them. Is there a void in your heart that you need to fill?
If you're doing something or around people you have a genuine passion for or interest in, then you will naturally generate and bellow positive energy that will attract others who are tuned into the same frequencies.
In my case, I love basketball and music. When I'm playing a pick-up game with my buddies or worshiping to Hillsong in my church, I light up those around me and the room. During these times, my energy is so powerful it literally connects and binds everyone together and lifts their spirits and confidence.
When I'm doing something I don't really care for, like conversing with someone I'm not interested in (because they're speaking defensively, uttering superficial nonsense, trying to control/dominate me - basically not really making an attempt to open up and connect with me), then I shut down and, instead of giving positive energy, I may instead drain theirs if I remain speaking to them.
You just have to find those activities / people that you have a genuine interest in. And they may not be what you're used to or comfortable with.
And with your conversation with girls, there may be a spiritual component to the dialog you haven't figured out yet.
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