Again, you are looking to gain or obtain something and they can see or sense that. It does not matter what environment you're in if you are there looking to get and you have nothing in return to give. I was recently at a party where I knew very few people there. I wound up starting a conversation with the person who looked most interesting to me, and instead of mundane small talk I started talking about something meaningful right away. This piqued her interest immediately, and we wound up in a deep discussion that others overheard, became interested in, and soon we had the entire room involved. In that instance I was not looking for attention or to simply socialize or make a friend. I was not looking to be the center of attention. I did not care how she perceived me. I would have had a great time wandering around snacking, drinking wine and looking at the host's artwork. I just felt like I had some ideas to share and wanted to do that.
When you are in a new environment, around new people, do you feel 'full' of energy that is bursting out of you, wanting to share thoughts and ideas? The common denominator in your stories is that people become bored of you within a short time of meeting you and wander away. Now either everyone in your environment is boring or you are boring them. If you are a low-energy person (likely given your environment) you may be unintentionally draining others rather than giving them your energy.
For the sake of curiosity, what's a typical conversation with a new person like, sentence for sentence? Maybe there is something in your conversation that is lacking that I might be able to pinpoint.
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