I think the main concern here is avoiding what people can percieve as douchery
Don't get me wrong. Some people need a kick in the ass to get started. But I wouldn't try that first, and it DEFINITELY doesn't work on everyone. If you personally mocked me, I'd consider you not worth my time, and really, who else wouldn't feel the same if they were wired that way?
For the most part, this is supposed to be a positive community, so people naturally prefer that here.