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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  I'm not really sure exactly what I want to ask here, but I just have a kind of uneasy feeling at my new job. I have been told I'm doing a great job, but at the same time, there are things that I don't know how to do or make mistakes with. When that happens or I have to ask for clarification, I feel like I'm being looked down on. It may be in my head, but it just seems that I'm being viewed as incompetent. Often the reason I miss something or don't know how to go about it is that I haven't been given enough information to begin with. Quite a few things don't have a real system in place that I can see so it seems like things are done differently each time. And I'm in the same field as my former job, but here they do a lot of things in a very different way.
So, how do I deal with this? I'm the only person working for my married bosses. Of course they have a long history together and just kind of know what the other would want or how they like things done. I'm told that they don't like to be asked the same question twice and I'm the type to always ask so I do things right.
ETA: It feels like they want me to just do things, to just know how and take the initiative, but at the same time have a very specific way they want them done. Totally understandable, of course, but tough for me at the same time. |
I would agree with those above and say that much of it is in your head, along with your views and "shoulds" about your employers.
However, I see something that might not be in your head. If they are the sort of people that: want you to take initiative, won't tell you what to do, but want things done in a very specific way, then there could be a particular problem later. That kind of conflicting purposes is counter productive and points to furthur problems with their business alignment, specifically with truth. This comic says it best, (language warning) -
http://www.machall.com/comics/20050602.jpg
If you manage to get out of your head and still find yourself in this kind of bind, perhaps it's not your head after all.