I have a friend who in many ways doesn't fit in with the rest of my life, but fits in perfectly with some of my other goals and pleasures.
For the longest time I wished he could change and tried to force him to change. Then, I just accepted him for who he is and the choices he makes. Now our friendship is stronger than ever.
I've had friends that didn't want to change and who I grew apart from, since my path took me in another direction. If they want to learn from me and I can learn and grow from them, we'll be friends again. If not, well that's okay as well.
I've never flat out ended a friendship in the same manner as a romantic one, but I imagine if you've already expressed to your friend what you want in a friend and they're unwilling to comply, you'll grow apart anyway.
Ask yourself is it necessary to END this friendship? What do you want from a friend, a more importantly what do you want from this friend?
Also, why did you attract this friend into your life in the first place? (That question is always tough to answer)
Lots of love,
Colm
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