My take on it was that Love was choosing to share part of yourself with something, whilst Oneness was letting it share back.
For example, a person can love another person, and seek to do what 'is best for them', but not listen to what they are saying, or act upon their wishes. For example, a parent who overcontrols their child, refusing to listen to any feedback. Or, a marketing person who believes they have the solution to someone's problem but refuses to listen to that person's actual experience and results.
Oneness, on the other hand, means allowing yourself to receive as well as give. You might believe a certain product or religion would bring someone absolute peace and happiness, but shutting down their voice means refusing to let them share back. Another example - teaching someone by lecturing them is connecting one way - Love - but engaging in a debate and allowing both people to learn and grow is Oneness.
Love is one way - you connect with something and transmit - data, beliefs, material goods, whatever. Oneness is allowing truth to flow back the other way.
You can love something and be in denial about the result your actions are having on them/it. Another example - you can love your pet, but feed it all the wrong foods and carry it everywhere instead of letting it roam about. You ignore all the feedback the pet gives you. Oneness would be about realising the truth of the situation, and giving the pet what it needs rather than what you think it needs.
At it's extreme, I think Loving something - a person say - and being in complete denial about the truth of the situation can lead to situations like stalking. The stalker probably honestly believes that they are meant to be together, that the person they love is just playing games, or they create a complete fantasy and ignore all the incoming signals that say the fantasy is false. Align that love with truth, and the stalker may realise they best thing they can do is back off.
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