[elainevdw]

That kind of compromise sucks. My guy has pulled that on me once or twice. He'd agree to go do something with me, and the entire time he'd be bored and I'd be totally miserable. Then he'd try and tell me what a nice thing he was doing for me, agreeing to tag along on this thing he doesn't enjoy, being a total killjoy, because he loves me. In reality, I'd probably have had more fun doing it by myself.

My version of compromise in situations like that is, I won't force him to do that stuff with me as long as he doesn't mind if I go do it myself! Like dancing. He hates dancing; I love it. I wish he'd dance with me, but at least he doesn't get on my case if I go out dancing with friends. That's a decent compromise, I think.

Compromise works really well with not-fun things, though. Like if one person hates doing the dishes, then work out a compromise: I'll do the dishes if you take out the trash. I'll wash the laundry if you'll fold it. That's actually a win-win situation, because I don't mind doing the dishes, but I hate dragging trash bags across the apartment complex to the garbage bins.

The only other type of "compromise" there is, is being willing to give something a try. Even if something sounds like it's going to be horrible, I'll always give it at least one (sometimes two) tries if my guy wants me to. And sometimes, it turns out not to have been that bad! But, if it really is that bad -- then his end of the compromise is to respect my preferences.