Hello guys
May I jump in from a woman's point of view?
Yes, it sure is different to look for a dating partner vs a love parter. While the former suggest more of fun and companionship, the latter has more deeper implications of a long-term relationship, possibily going towards marriage.
Whatever the pickup artists teach, it is basically about a "game" where the man will go all out to get their target's interest. They are very useful to get a woman's attention and interest. But, a note of caution here is: a woman who's looking for serious relationship don't like games.
Songwriter, I feel that joking about your success in how you flirt in a disco is pure entertaining, but they are also telling the ladies that you may be too much of a fun-looking guy!
I'm not sure, but it sounds like you are driving yourself into a "desperate" corner from the way you have described your situation and your mindset. Women trust our instints very much. We can smell a man whos's trying-too-hard from a mile away. It's not a tough guess to know that we're generally reluctant to accept such a date cos we'll be suspecting is there an underlying agenda or, is there something wrong with the guy?
To play safe, we'd rather reject it. Well, security is a basic need for human, esp for women in terms of love.
In any case, whether is it for date or love partner, sincerity is the key. When we can sense that, we're pretty willing to go for at least one shot, because someone who is sincere is good to be a friend even if it doesn't turn out to be otherwise.
Wulfen, I love your positive mindset and beliefs. That's why I blogged a whole series on
Love Beliefs on my blog.
Hope what I said helps!