I think you're just getting caught up in the semantics, Rose. You're bringing your own definition of love to the table, but the principle of Love is defined a bit differently. If it helps, feel free to rename the principle to Connection or something similar. The words aren't as important as the concepts.
When you're aligned with the principle of Love, you're actively connecting with what you want. When you're out of alignment with this principle, you're spending too much time connecting with what you don't want.
So if you want your morning coffee, and it feels good to you, you're in alignment with Love. If you drink it and want to quit but feel addicted, you're out of alignment.
A simple exercise you can do is to make a list of the 10 people you spend the most time with on a daily basis. Then circle the names of the people that you really like, the ones you feel good about connecting with. If you don't circle at least 7-8 names, you have an alignment problem with Love in terms of your relationships. That would indicate that it's time to pull out of the relationships that don't serve you and build new relationships that do.
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