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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  Listening is what i do best! I talk about 10% of the time and listen 90%. If God wanted us to speak more than listen he would have given us two mouths and only one ear  |
Very cool... what do you define as listening?
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But how are they going to know about those things unless you are able to tell them? And how do you just make that stuff known without sounding like you're bragging or trying to get attention or trying to dominate the conversation? And what if you don't have anything interesting going on? lol You can't change into a more exciting career or suddenly have kids that you can talk about.
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You're not trying to dominate the conversation, or bragging. This is about offering value. My definition of Active Listening, unlike most definitions, actually includes ACTION as the final step. If someone asks for advice, THIS is when a story comes out. Or when, you see that there is boredom or the vibe needs to be shifted, they'lll come out. Secondly, to be compelling, you need to have exciting things going on, period. To say that you can't change careers or have more kids is not only false... it's beside the point. You can do exciting things outside of these areas.
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Well i'm screwed here LOL This is the exact reason (i think) i have problems,cuz i suck at communicating. How can you improve your "storytelling" skills? I don't even tell jokes cuz i suck so bad at speaking.
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Hang around people who are good storytellers. Join toastmasters. Read a book on public speaking, read a book on storytelling. PRACTICE. Start working on telling stories, and you'll get better through social feedback.
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Be more specific LOL What if they didn't want what they got,how can they want more of THAT? lol
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If you do the above three things, you shouldn't have a problem
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