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Originally Posted by Chips73  I'm already worrying about the comments that this post will generate because I have been a member for less than four hours and already I have dared to question Helgi's article ... |
No worries! I'm on the same side of the table as you.
To clarify what I meant when I said "to value neither approval nor disapproval," I wasn't suggesting that you look at other people's opinion with cynicism. It's not about disapproving of other people's opinion, or attacking it with a "screw what you think of me" kind of attitude.
One way of putting this is that you value neither in particular but honor both. You honor both
equally, and don't project the judgment of 'good' or 'bad' on either. You can then accept criticism and praise, take advice and suggestions from both, but allowing neither to control you or affect your inner state. You're independent of both, but not in a way that claims superiority. Humility and being independent of other people's opinions are not mutually exclusive.
Mark L: The
how is the big
How, the one that all spiritual teachings are ultimately talking about. Disidentifying from form would be one way of putting it, and realizing the true nature of other people's opinion is merely an aspect of that. (as if there were "other people" -- ultimately it's just the ego talking to itself)