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Originally Posted by bbdream8  Wow Neophyte, you got a great long list there. I suggest you take one step at a time to slowly tackle your problems, each and every one of them.
You can read this article on breaking down your goals. I have written an article on dealing with insecurity you can read that too.
Get yourself a book call First Thing First by Stephen R.Covey. His ideas on time management would be great for you.
Hope that helps.
Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger |
I bought the book yesterday =] I’m excited; the book so far has given me an important insight: I’m an urgency addict. I’ve read the first 64 pages and I like it. I think that your approach to goal setting would definitely help me when I try it. I tend to set too many goals at once and bounce from planning one goal to another. I really like Covey's analogy of nurturing and investing in a garden, which is much better than letting weed patch grow on its own.
The insecurity article reminded me of a flaw: I fear social situations. I fear being teased and rejected. I think the hardest part will be finding someone I trust and telling them about the challenges that I face. Recording my successes and failures feels like a good idea. I think I will list my strengths, my weaknesses, ask others about my strengths and weaknesses so that I can see stuff that I don’t want to admit to myself, and then research and create an action plan in order to address them.
I also think that I’ll buy “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. When I first looked at it, I thought that it would be manipulative, but after reading a summary, I saw that it had ideas like ”be a good listener” or “Show respect for the other person's opinions.”
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Originally Posted by Lauxa Great post, inquiringmind, lots of good advise!
When you read through the PD literature, you'll find that being mindful and increasing awareness are some common themes. The reason is that you get what you focus on, so you have to control your focus and continuously bring it back to what you want. The problem is that the ego resists and puts up the illusion that you can't focus on what you want. For me, [url]http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/intention-manifestation/21094-negative-affirmations.html[/url ] has been a great trick to get around my ego.
Here's an idea for your procrastination. Set an amount of time that you will work each week on school work. Then announce that you will pay $15/hour for each hour of work that you do not accomplish. Give the money to your parents or donate it to a charity. I have seen several people become quite motivated by this incentive. |
Yeah, I do feel that my ego puts up that illusion =/. The topic of negative affirmations stirs a lot of interest in me because it seems counter-intuitive. I’ve tried it in the last couple of days and I’ll do it some more.
Reading the posts in your thread, I noticed that the way you construct the thought is a key part of negative affirmations. I’ll experiment with it and good luck with your experiment =D
I’ll do that. I don’t know who’ll I’ll announce it to, but I’ll try. I don’t have a lot of money, so I'm scared that I might run out of it; this might result in me giving up the approach, but I'll do it anyway. Who knows? I could end up a better student.
