Originally Posted by ballaholic
I don't think I could ever do that. I couldn't live knowing she was getting intimate with someone else. Would it be wrong for me to tell her to stop seeing him? subtly? directly? It's driving me nuts. I havn't slept yet.
I feel for you. I know everyone is saying to let her go.
This is what you have to do.
But none of them said how freaken hard that is!
I know coz I have been there myself.
The only way in which you can get over this, is if you accept she is going to be with this other guy.
Have u noticed the more you hold on tight, the more she wants to be free.
Treat this like a break up. Don't contact her for a month. Go out and do things without her.
Then in a month, one the pain has kind of dulled a bit, you can choose to contact her again.
Everything happens for a reason and maybe this experience is meant to teach you something about a relationship you have down the track.
Im sorry, but all the best.