I don't think porn is cheating, any more than masturbation and fantasy is cheating. I do think porn can be unhealthy. It's the sexual equivalent of junk food --- it's not good for you, a little bit now and then probably isn't terrible, but regular consumption is bad for you.
We are programmed to respond to sexual stimuli, just as we are programmed to crave sweet food and fatty food. Our natural "sweet tooth" probably developed to attract us to fruit, and our natural desire for fats developed to attract us to high energy food that could help us get the calories our ancestors needed.
Modern junk food takes advantage of these inbuilt triggers, and when there's a cheap, abundant supply of high fructose corn syrup, hydrogenated fats, and other processed pseudo-food, our inbuilt survival instincts drive us to eat ourselves into an early grave.
Likewise, sexual desire obviously kept us breeding and ensured the survival of the human species.
Tens of thousands of years ago, the average male in a tribe of 40 to 100 people may have encountered only a handful of physically attractive women in his entire life. Modern advertising ensures that he is now bombarded with a never-ending variety of digitally enhanced airbrushed images of exceptionally beautiful women perhaps a hundred times a day. Once again, an inbuilt survival mechansim has been "hacked" to the detriment of our Mr. Everyman.
(I'm not excluding women, but the visual sexual response seems a bit more powerful in men. [Heterosexual] Men instinctively tend to be attracted to cues of fertility --- the appearance of youth and health --- whereas women instinctively tend to be attracted to cues of social power --- also used in advertising, but not as easily represented in a single image. Of course women are also physically attracted to beauty, but perhaps to a slightly lesser degree.)
Just as a McDonald's addict will turn away in disgust at a plate full of healthy fruits and vegetables, a porn addict will always be dissatisfied with a real, human, "flawed" partner. I imagine he (more often than she) would eventually become dissatisfied with a porn starlet once he had to deal with her normal human flaws, or once he became bored and started craving variety.
So, porn may not be that bad if watched sparingly, with the understanding that it's all ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ and fantasy, but it can be very addictive to some people, so use it with care.
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