Not sure how many people here are getting the PUA reference.
If not you should probably read 'The Game'.
But basically PUA = Pick Up Artist or in english people who're attempting to use the scientific method to get good at seduction.
Anyway, Radical, you say your problem is coming from understanding and viewing interactions as 'fake'. I don't know you and am just guessing but it sounds like your situation is:
In your Male / Female interactions you see people exhibit a particular behaviour. Because of the PU Theory models you have you can attribute this behaviour to disires in the person which are at odds to what they say they want.
Or in other words, PU theory and models tell you that the girl is interested in you but the girl states that she isn't interested in you, consequently she's being 'fake', it's all lies and deception. PU theories tell you that you should lie about your desires and intentions and indeed you discover that if you lie people like you better. Consequently they WANT you to be 'fake'.
This is what I assume is the source of your current feelings?
So, assuming that I'm not just off on some mad wild theory. This is my answer:
The PU Theorys you have in you mind are not the reality of the situation, "the map is not the territory". Just because what you see fits the model in your head doesn't make the model 100% accurate. Remember, these models and theories aren't created to be accurate, they aren't designed to give a full and rich description of what is going on. They're created and used because they are USEFUL IN PICKING UP WOMEN. Thats it, thats the test, so just because you have these theories and they describe behaviour fairly well, doesn't make them TRUE. Most guys don't care if the theory is True, they care that it Works.
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